whats the difference of advising and mr. know it all?

Honestly, i do not know. all i have done and written its just about helping and advising people but then i looked back again and thought again... i dont like to be perceived as Mr Know It All (MKIA, too lazy to type) when the fact is that i dont. Its just that i am happy when people come to me and talk to me about their problems, feels like they trust me to give an advise. the fact is that i really have been through a lot.

so... does a person who has gone through a lot equals to Mr Knows It All? the thing is that if the other person do not know what I have been through then i guess i am perceived as MKIA. its confusing... Each time when i hear a friend says "you are not me so you would not know what i have been through.", when the fact is that i have been through something so similar.

so seriously... whats the difference? how do you actually differentiate MKIA and advising cause we just care? but its just a random thought in my head.

On another topic, how much patience CAN a person have. i had a little short argument with a colleague. and her tolerance for patience is just ridiculous... although i have much admiration for that but it got to my nerves when i asked her "dont you get angry when someone provokes u or insults u?" and i got this reply "why do i need to get angry? showing negative emotions like anger is not use, our subordinates will not listen. we need to talk to them nicely even when we feel angry for the wrong things they did"... this is only what i think, she is going to be stepped on and bullied very soon. i do pity her sometimes cause the way people treats her and she just keeps in her blind spot. i was told by another friend of mine, that she is living life like a textbook and that her life was sweet previously, for example: this is how it should be done. and this is how i should react. what i feel is like, emotions are meant to be shown, just to what degree of expressing it. take note i am not saying bad about her as well as not telling how she should react but... i just would like her to be bullied and stepped on.

then again its not my problem. life isnt as sweet as it looks. and i will quiet down now.

got my own hole to dig.

and i am still confused about the topic...

peace

vin